A wise woman builds her house

By Pastor Jasper Mutale

The MOTHERS ROLE is to spend definite TIME with her children, in spite of her other duties.  Both the QUALITY and QUANTITY of time is important.   Our childrens behaviour is a reflection of how we live as role models.  

We need the WISDOM OF GOD to train them up in the way they should go.   Prov 22:6  “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” This is an encouraging promise in the Word for parents.

Notice that children naturally are not born good.  You will know this if you have children.   They have to LEARN what is right and what is wrong and be trained in the way to go.  This is one of the parts of motherhood.   If we neglect our children we cannot expect them to follow the Lord.  We have a PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY to God to raise them in a godly way.  Mothers are home more than fathers, therefore the mother has this role in a major way, especially if the husband has to travel away often.

FATHERS are the head in the home and therefore have the final say in the decision making.  Mothers do well to stand together with the father’s final decision.  This is God’s order in the family, and it creates STABILITY for all and UNITY in the home.  When there is disunity between the parents, it opens up a door for the children to start manipulating.

Our SMALL CHILDREN are our first responsibility before the Lord.  They are also our first disciples.  We are commanded to “go and make disciples”, but how will we be able to make disciples out there in the world, if we cannot make disciples of our own children?  The home is the training ground for making disciples.

Homemakers are like an ANCHOR in the home.  Women are nowhere in the Bible encouraged to go out and work.  We have to oppose the worldly mindset on this issue when we are confronted by it. Some mothers often FEEL GUILTY because they don’t spend enough time with their children.  Due to these guilt feelings they do not discipline their children diligently as they should, which in turn leads to rebellious children.  We need to remember that the purpose of marriage is to raise godly offspring (Mal. 2:15).  You cannot raise godly offspring when you are an absent parent.

When OLDER MORE EXPERIENCED WOMEN are in the work place and are not leaving a legacy to the younger women, there is no ROLE MODEL of true homemakers any more.Read Titus 2: 3-5  “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.  Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

In other words, older women must teach younger women: to be  reverent in behaviour, to be  respectful and dedicated to the Lord and His Word, to love their husbands, to love theirchildren, to be discreet and chaste, to be faithful and loyal in word and deed, to behomemakers, to be good, to be obedient to their husbands. This is the lifestyle that glorifies God.

On the other hand, older women are to be: reverent in behaviour, teachers of good things.keepers at home

According to Edith Schaeffer in her book, “What is a Family?” the wife is a type of the Holy Spirit and she is the one responsible for the atmosphere in the home.

Prov. 14:1 “The wise  woman builds her house , but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”  In other words, women have the capability to BUILD and to tear down.  It is a CHOICE they make.  A smoothly run house with wonderful children demonstrates a  NOBLE, PRUDENT, WISE  WOMAN.  Read Prov. 31: 10-31.  See if you can identify the positive aspects of a keeper at home. Verse 10 speaks of her personal character and value.  She is highly valued.  More than what money can buy. Verses 11-12 show how her husband has great confidence in her.  He trusts her.  She is trustworthy (also with money) and she supports her husband.  Verses 13-19 reveal her ceaseless labours and clever enterprise.  She does not waste money, but she spends money wisely.  She is thrifty. Verse 20 shows that she is a woman who is full of charity. Verses 21-22 indicate that she provides well for herhousehold. Verse 23 shows that her husband is respected in society because of her. Verses 24-27 reveal that she is industrious and has a beautiful character.Verses 28-31 show that she fears the Lord and is praised by all for her godliness and labour.  Even her children call her blessed.

The Proverbs 31 wife is creative and resourceful.  She does not feel bored and locked up at home.  How did she get to this esteemed position?   She  works hard with her hands (verse 13).  Literally this means that                          she finds pleasure in working with her hands.  Her work at home is like a hobby to her.   She prepares food for the household (verse 15)   She raises money and invests it wisely (verse 16)She is not idle, has strong arms for the job, because she has been doing this every day (verse 17) She gives to the poor and needy. She knows the principle of giving and is kind-hearted.  She is a good role model to her children(Verse 18).She knows how to make clothes and linen for the house (Verse 22)She watches over the affairs of the home (Verse 27)She fears the Lord (Verse 30).  This is the KEY!

The Proverbs 31 wife: is a commendable wife and mother, lives for her home and family, isindustrious, is creative and resourceful, is self-disciplined and orderly, is a sharp businesswoman, has good, refined tastes, manifests the grace of hospitality, has a beautiful character,is charitable in time of need, is spiritually minded (she fears the Lord)

Women should not look at these Scriptures and feel it is impossible for them to match up.  God never encourages us to do something without giving us the power to do it.   If a woman fulfils her role as keeper of the home in this way, the Word calls her noble and worth more than precious stones.  The Word also promises that she will be rewarded (Prov. 31: 31).

In summary, the woman in Prov. 31 has a little home business.  The key is that it all centresaround the home.  The home is the woman’s priority.  According to the Mishna, a  Jewishreligious book, home-makes are in a place of protection, preservation and provision under their husbands.  If balancing your roles is this important so that no essential role is neglected, then surely we can say that a woman’s total life as a woman with all her roles, duties and responsibilities rest on the worthy aim of being obedient to the will of God

The woman fulfils many roles of honour in the family: she is a gift to her husband. she can submit with honour to her husband, she is the wife and friend to her man, she is a mother andhomemaker, she is a great prayer warrior for her loved ones.

Prov. 18:22  “He who finds a true wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

The original plan was that man and wife TOGETHER were to have dominion.  There was tobe: mutuality in rulership, authority and submission of one to another.  This was natural.(Gen. 1:27-28.)

But we read in Gen. 3:16 “To the woman He said, ‘I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children.  Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.’”This is the result of a curse which came because of the fall.  The word “desire” here means to “compel, urge or seek to control.”  As long as the man and woman walk in the flesh, there will be a constant inclination for women to control menthrough this basic desire.  “Rule” here means to “reign”.  No longer is there any co-regency.  The reason is that Eve usurped her role and took headship.  So there would be constant war and battle.  This is the reason for both FEMINISM and MALE CHAUVINISM.

Gal. 3:13-14   “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: ‘Cursed is everyone who is hanged on a tree.’  He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit.”

The ONLY WAY to be the woman, wife and mother that pleases God is to be filled with the Holy Spirit and to walk by the Spirit on a daily basis. For Now God bless you and cause you to prosper.

For prayers contact me at jasper.mutale@yahoo.com